What exactly is a limiting belief?

A limiting belief is a negative thought or feeling about you and what you are capable of accomplishing.

Everyone has an endless tape of “self-talk” running through their head.  I’m sure you know what I mean.  This tape is the narrator of your life.  It is constantly commenting on everything that you and everyone else are doing.

The problem is that your internal commentator isn’t really all that nice.  He seems to find fault often and is constantly judging you.

How often do you think or feel the following?

• Boy, that was stupid.
• I didn’t do that good enough.
• No wonder nobody loves me.
• I’ll never get that job.
• I’m not smart enough.
• I look fat or ugly.
• Ugh, what was I thinking?

All of these thoughts and feelings are ruining your life.  The beliefs you carry determine how successful you will be in love, money, and in life.

Many limiting beliefs keep you “stuck”.  You are scared to try, to put yourself out in the world, or to meet new people.  Limiting beliefs keep you in terrible relationships and jobs that you don’t like.

The important thing to remember is that these thoughts and feelings can be changed.  Once you know that you have them, you can choose to believe something else.  You can choose to believe the truth.

The truth is that you are smart, beautiful, and perfect just the way you are.  I am very confident in telling you this.  Do you want to know why?

I know it’s true because God doesn’t make mistakes.

Do you ever just wake up in the morning in a BAD mood?

Or maybe you stub your toe, spill your coffee, or burn your toast.  Doesn’t it seem that once one thing goes wrong, the whole day goes down hill?

The truth is that the reason the rest of the day goes wrong, is because of your bad mood.

In other words, when you become angry about something that happens, you spend time focusing on it.  And where attention goes, energy flows.

This energy attracts other bad experiences.  That’s why it’s so important to change your mood, ASAP!

5 Ways to Lift Your Mood

1. Listen to music.  Now, I don’t mean the sappy music that always makes you cry.  I mean something upbeat and happy.  Music that makes your toes tap.
2. Laugh.  Laughter really is the BEST medicine because the easiest way to turn that frown upside down is by laughing.  Watch a sitcom, rent a movie.  Just remember to laugh out loud.
3. Have a GO-TO memory.  Think back over the years.  What was a really good moment, something that always puts a smile on your face and a warm feeling in your heart?  Learn to “flip out” of your bad mood by learning to “flip into” this sweet memory.
4. Spend time with your pet.  Is there anyone in your life that gives you more unconditional love than your pet?  If you have a pet, you know the healing effect an animal can have on you. 
5. Call a friend.  Now, you need to be careful with this one.  You should have a good-time friend, someone that’s fun and makes you feel good.  This is the friend to call.  You aren’t calling to complain, you’re calling to hear all of the wonderful and fun stories she has to share.  Soon, you’ll be looking up.

When you change your mood, your vibrational energy changes to positive.  Soon you’ll be seeing the silver lining and things won’t seem so bad. 

When is the last time you were so angry or hurt?

When you think of that event now, how does it make you feel?

Do you still have emotion that comes up?

Anger is one of those emotions that can literally eat away at you.   Anger can take over and consume your entire life.  I’m sure you can think of someone that is just angry all the time.  Nothing ever goes right for him and he is just never in a good mood.

When I meet someone like this, I often wonder to myself, what happened to make him that way?  And I wish he would realize that it is much more painful to continuously live that way than it is to let it go.

Many times, your experiences become your story.  It’s how you identify yourself.  It becomes who you are.  And, you can’t let go of the anger because you don’t know who you are without it.

You Need to Stop Holding Grudges

You see, there is a problem with holding on to that anger.  There is a problem with holding that grudge.  If you stay angry, who are you hurting?  Does that person you are angry at even know that you are angry?  You are really only hurting yourself.

• When you hold a grudge, the other person can’t seek forgiveness from you.  Most times when you hold a grudge, you cut off all communication from the person that hurt you.  You completely cut them out of your life.  When you do this, there is absolutely no chance to heal the hurt.  There is no chance to ever reconcile.  Maybe the other person wants to apologize.  Maybe you should let him.
• You become the victim.  When you hold a grudge, you place the blame on someone else.  You willingly put yourself in the victim role.  This is a very powerless place to be.  When you are the victim, you refuse to see that you may have contributed to the problem.  Being able to see that it takes two people to make or break any type of relationship, is where the power is.  This is when you can grow.
• Joy leaves your life.  When you refuse to release anger, it consumes you.  Being angry and unhappy takes a lot of energy.  And when you are angry all the time, you attract the same kind of people, angry people.  The happy people don’t want to be around you.  Like attracts like.

I know that this can be easier said than done.  And, there is a grieving process when certain things happen.  You can give yourself a few days to stay in that place of anger or sadness, but only a few days.  

Take each circumstance in your life as a lesson learned.  Each person you come in contact with is a mirror into what needs to be healed in you.  Each experience, both painful and happy, was divinely brought to you for growth.  Even if it is painful, it is for your higher good.   

Know that you are a powerful person that is in complete control of what your life is like.  You can CHOOSE to be happy instead of angry at any moment.  You can CHOOSE to take back your power.  You can CHOOSE to forgive.

I just finished listening to a show on BlogTalk Radio.  The guest on the show was Eleanore Duyndam, EFT Practitioner and healer.

I found it to be the most interesting topic.  She was discussing how she healed her own vision.  I found this to be extremely interesting because I know someone else who had this same incredible miracle.

Causes of Poor Eyesight

Eleanor explained some of the main emotional reasons that you may have poor vision.

1. Tension in your eyes.  You carry a lot of tension and stress in your eyes.  It is a place in which emotional stuff piles up.  You need to tune into your eyes and relax.
2. Eyes represent self-image.  Your eyes represent how you see yourself.  They are your identity.  You carry shame and self esteem in your eyes.
3. Collective Consciousness.  You formed your beliefs about your eyes when you were a child.  You probably didn’t even choose your own beliefs.  Do you believe that you need reading glasses as you age, that elderly people have cataracts, or that all the people in your family need glasses?  Can you see what I mean?

As you can see, there is an incredible connection between what is going on inside of you and what manifests physically in your body.  It is important to let go of the beliefs that are no longer serving you.  As you begin to release these old beliefs, you will see more than your eyesight improve. 

“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love.  In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” ~ Robert Muller

I decided long ago that I couldn’t hold onto hurt anymore.  I’m not the type of person that nurses a grudge or seeks revenge.  I personally don’t see the point in it. 

Not that is has always been an easy path.  There were times when the hurt was very deep.  There were events that have shaped who I am.  BUT, I have come to realize that holding on to this pain, only wreaks havoc on my own life.

Self-Forgiveness

I have actually discovered that it has been much harder to forgive myself than to forgive others.  You maybe feel the same way.  Are you judging yourself for something you have done?  Do you feel guilty?  Do you remember saying something that hurt someone you love?

Forgiveness is a very important step in your spiritual journey.  It is absolutely crucial to let yourself off the hook.  If you are carrying guilt over the past, there is very little room left to fit happiness into your life. 

It doesn’t mean that what you did was right.  It only means that you decide and know that you were doing the very best you could at the time.  That is all any of us can do. 

Forgiving Others 

When you refuse to forgive another person, you are putting yourself in the role of the victim.  It is a very powerless place to be.  It means that people do things to you.

What I would like for you to understand is that no one is a victim.  You are the creator of your life.  Sometimes we attract less than desirable situations as part of a spiritual lesson.  It can be very painful, but it is important to find the lesson in each circumstance. 

I would like for you to take back your power.  I would like you to see yourself in the role of the creator.  I would absolutely love for you to find and learn the lessons in your life.  They are there. 

Look back over the times that you struggled.  What came of it?  How did you grow?  When you can see that these struggles are really growth periods, it makes the road you travel much easier.