I just recently decided to invest in myself.  I know that over the last few years, I have begun a quantum leap in my life.  AND, I feel as though it is almost complete.   

So, what do I mean by that?

I know that at certain times in your life it is necessary to receive help to make a leap to the next level.  It could be emotionally, physically, spiritually, or even financially.  All successful, balanced people have coaches and mentors.  So, I decided that I needed a mentor to help me complete MY quantum leap.

I have begun studying with Kristin and David Morelli.  AND I am SO EXCITED to be in their 40 Days and 40 Nights Program.  The basis of their teaching is that EVERYTHING IS ENERGY.

Ok, so what is energy?

Energy is life-force.  It is a vibration.  It is something that can be felt.  And everything is energy. 

It’s a new concept to a lot of people, but every person and object is made up of energy.  We all have a vibration.  And whatever level you are vibrating at is the level at which you create your life.

WHAT?  Here’s a practical example:

When you are in a place of fear, about a relationship, money, or career, you are vibrating at a lower level.  You have a feeling underneath any action you take to remedy the situation.  Until you are able to change the energy and change the feeling, the situation won’t get better.  It will appear that your actions aren’t working.

This is why it seems like you just can’t catch a break.  Your energy is actually keeping you stuck.

Two of my favorite tools for shifting energy are guided imagery and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).  I have witnessed first hand the power of both.  Once you release the energy blocks, you are able to EASILY create the life of your dreams.  You will no longer have the fears and beliefs holding you back.

I hope my willingness to invest in myself and in my dreams, inspires you to do the same.  Let’s create our dream lives together.

This morning country singer Clay Walker was on The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet.  He was talking about the day he received the biggest wake-up call of his life.

Eleven years ago, he was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis.  The doctors told him that he was going to die.  Today, watching him, you would never even know that he had an illness.

He told Mike and Juliet, the hosts, that this illness caused him to re-evaluate his entire life.  When he was first diagnosed, he wasn’t happy.  His life wasn’t in balance. 

Today, he credits his health with healing his body, mind, and spirit.  He takes the time to do things he loves.  He spends more time with his family.  He makes a conscious effort to live a more balanced life.

What’s Your Wake-Up Call?

Seeing him on the show this morning really got me thinking.  How many times do you refuse to change part of your life until something bad happens?  It could be an illness, divorce, or getting hurt on the job.  Each one of these things forces you to change direction in your life. 

The tricky part is recognizing that it is God’s intervention.  So many times you refuse to make the change on your own.  If that is the case, God steps in and throws you a complete curve ball.  This curve ball forces the change on you.

How Do You Handle the Change?

When a serious life-altering event is taking place in your life, how do you deal with it?  It’s very easy to fall straight into the victim role.  It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself and think that the world is ending. 

The truth is, that the world is ending as you know it.  BUT it’s not ending completely.  Now is the time to take inventory of your life.  What is working and what isn’t? 

It’s time to do a lot of internal housekeeping.  What needs to change?  What can you let go of that is no longer serving you?  What emotions, pain, anger, or guilt do you need to release?

It’s time to start over with a clean slate.  It’s time to get back to who you are and who you want to be.  It’s time to thank God for this blessing.  It’s time to find the silver-lining. 

 

Over the last few weeks, I have found myself sucked in yet again to the reality show, “The Bachelor”.  I think that part of the allure is that I am a self-proclaimed hopeless romantic. 

My conscious mind and my background in relationship coaching tell me that there is no way that you can find your life partner on that show.  Yet, there is a piece of me that is truly rooting for the couples when they leave the show.  I even do believe that you never know where you will meet your soul mate.  Only God knows that answer.  You only need to accept the opportunities that come your way.

This season has been even more dramatic than the last ones.  The bachelor, Jason Mesnick chose Melissa and proposed.  After the show ended, he changed his mind and wanted to try again with the woman he let go, Molly.

If you are able to watch the show objectively, it is quite the lesson in human behavior.  This is one of the other reasons I love to watch this show.  There are so many hidden pearls of wisdom in this season.  I’d like to share some of the life lessons I found this season.

Lessons Learned From “The Bachelor”

1. Say “yes” to opportunities.  When there is something that you long for or that you desire, the universe will present you with opportunities.  It is your job to take a risk and follow the opportunities.  It will always lead you to what you want or something better.  Jason took the first chance by being on “The Bachelorette”.  He didn’t find his true love, but then he had another chance.
2. Don’t worry what anyone else thinks about you.  You need to do what is right for you, regardless of what other people think.  So many people get caught up worrying what their family, friends, and society will think of them.  Let it go.  Jason knew that he made a mistake with Melissa and that he would get a lot of grief from his decision, but he knew he had to follow his heart.  That’s when he went back to Molly.
3. Everything happens for a reason.  In the midst of emotional heartache and pain, it is hard to see the bigger picture.  BUT when you look back at your life, you can see the thread tying all of the events together.  you can see how one thing lead you to the next part of your life.  I thought that the bachelorette Melissa handled herself very well.  I was proud of her when she said that she will be able to look back at this situation and see why it happened.  It is all leading her to someone else.

Overall, I thought that the season was intriguing and I was actually very suprised that he went back to Molly.  I thought that Melissa was the better fit for him, but what do I know.  Only you know what is right for you. 

I wish Jason and Molly much love and happiness and I look forward to the new season beginning in May!

So, if it’s really true that you can have it all, do you?  Are you living the life that you dream about?  Is your life all that you have ever hoped for?

I know that each and every one of you has secret thoughts that you don’t tell anyone about.  There are things that you hope for and even long for.  I know this about you because I have them too. 

I spend a good portion of the day thinking about the life that I want.  It is the life that I am creating right now.  But I often wonder, “why don’t I have it yet”? 

Obstacles in Your Way

Most of the time when you want something that you don’t yet have, there is something standing in your way.  In order to have it all, you need to make room for the goodness to come. 

Most of the time, this means you need to let go of something first.  It could be as little as letting go of the way you think, feel, or act.  It might be that you need to let go of a fear.  It could be something bigger like letting go of a job you hate or a relationship that isn’t working.

Break Free

I say that these are little things to do, but often they FEEL ENORMOUS.  It means stepping out of your comfort zone.  It means growing.

The reason that you don’t have the life you want is because you need to grow in order to attain it.  If you continue to resist the growth, you will forever be stuck. 

Learn to embrace change.  Learn to love living on the edge.  Learn to appreciate the uneasy feeling you get when you are changing.  It is all leading to the beauty of your perfect life.

 

I watched the farewell address last night by President Bush.  I have often pondered his Presidency.  So many people in this country and around the world are divided by his decisions and actions over the last eight years.

The thing that I have often wondered about is not his decisions, but how he gets up each and every day to face a world that is criticizing him.  He made a comment last night that he has been willing to make very tough decisions and he made them with a clear conscience.

No matter how you feel about President Bush, we all have to agree that he was faced with some very difficult decisions after September 11.  He made the decisions and stood by them in the face of criticism, judgement, and much anger.

I don’t know if I would be strong enough if faced with the same reactions.  What kind of person do you need to BE in order to do what you think is right and not worry about what everyone thinks about you?

Faced with the decisions that you need to make right now in your life, can you do what is right for you without worrying about another’s opinion?  Can you BE the person you really are with courage and faith that you are doing the right thing?  Are you strong enough to stand up for what you believe?

Just a thought.