So, what do I mean by that?

I know that at certain times in your life it is necessary to receive help to make a leap to the next level.  It could be emotionally, physically, spiritually, or even financially.  All successful, balanced people have coaches and mentors.  So, I decided that I needed a mentor to help me complete MY quantum leap.

I have begun studying with Kristin and David Morelli.  AND I am SO EXCITED to be in their 40 Days and 40 Nights Program.  The basis of their teaching is that EVERYTHING IS ENERGY.

Ok, so what is energy?

Energy is life-force.  It is a vibration.  It is something that can be felt.  And everything is energy. 

It’s a new concept to a lot of people, but every person and object is made up of energy.  We all have a vibration.  And whatever level you are vibrating at is the level at which you create your life.

WHAT?  Here’s a practical example:

When you are in a place of fear, about a relationship, money, or career, you are vibrating at a lower level.  You have a feeling underneath any action you take to remedy the situation.  Until you are able to change the energy and change the feeling, the situation won’t get better.  It will appear that your actions aren’t working.

This is why it seems like you just can’t catch a break.  Your energy is actually keeping you stuck.

Two of my favorite tools for shifting energy are guided imagery and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).  I have witnessed first hand the power of both.  Once you release the energy blocks, you are able to EASILY create the life of your dreams.  You will no longer have the fears and beliefs holding you back.

I hope my willingness to invest in myself and in my dreams, inspires you to do the same.  Let’s create our dream lives together.

A limiting belief is a negative thought or feeling about you and what you are capable of accomplishing.

Everyone has an endless tape of “self-talk” running through their head.  I’m sure you know what I mean.  This tape is the narrator of your life.  It is constantly commenting on everything that you and everyone else are doing.

The problem is that your internal commentator isn’t really all that nice.  He seems to find fault often and is constantly judging you.

How often do you think or feel the following?

• Boy, that was stupid.
• I didn’t do that good enough.
• No wonder nobody loves me.
• I’ll never get that job.
• I’m not smart enough.
• I look fat or ugly.
• Ugh, what was I thinking?

All of these thoughts and feelings are ruining your life.  The beliefs you carry determine how successful you will be in love, money, and in life.

Many limiting beliefs keep you “stuck”.  You are scared to try, to put yourself out in the world, or to meet new people.  Limiting beliefs keep you in terrible relationships and jobs that you don’t like.

The important thing to remember is that these thoughts and feelings can be changed.  Once you know that you have them, you can choose to believe something else.  You can choose to believe the truth.

The truth is that you are smart, beautiful, and perfect just the way you are.  I am very confident in telling you this.  Do you want to know why?

I know it’s true because God doesn’t make mistakes.

Or maybe you stub your toe, spill your coffee, or burn your toast.  Doesn’t it seem that once one thing goes wrong, the whole day goes down hill?

The truth is that the reason the rest of the day goes wrong, is because of your bad mood.

In other words, when you become angry about something that happens, you spend time focusing on it.  And where attention goes, energy flows.

This energy attracts other bad experiences.  That’s why it’s so important to change your mood, ASAP!

5 Ways to Lift Your Mood

1. Listen to music.  Now, I don’t mean the sappy music that always makes you cry.  I mean something upbeat and happy.  Music that makes your toes tap.
2. Laugh.  Laughter really is the BEST medicine because the easiest way to turn that frown upside down is by laughing.  Watch a sitcom, rent a movie.  Just remember to laugh out loud.
3. Have a GO-TO memory.  Think back over the years.  What was a really good moment, something that always puts a smile on your face and a warm feeling in your heart?  Learn to “flip out” of your bad mood by learning to “flip into” this sweet memory.
4. Spend time with your pet.  Is there anyone in your life that gives you more unconditional love than your pet?  If you have a pet, you know the healing effect an animal can have on you. 
5. Call a friend.  Now, you need to be careful with this one.  You should have a good-time friend, someone that’s fun and makes you feel good.  This is the friend to call.  You aren’t calling to complain, you’re calling to hear all of the wonderful and fun stories she has to share.  Soon, you’ll be looking up.

When you change your mood, your vibrational energy changes to positive.  Soon you’ll be seeing the silver lining and things won’t seem so bad. 

I watched him on a few different shows this week.  I must admit, I had such a crush on him when I was young.  And now, I think he is such an inspiration to so many people.

He has been struggling with Parkinson’s Disease for 18 years.  The disease hasn’t stopped him or brought him down.  His life is full of love, laughter, friends, and family.

I was very impressed by his attitude.  Some of his views on life were very deep and reflective.

• For everything that Parkinson’s took from his life, it gave him so much more.
• He is the luckiest man in the world — he has a beautiful wife and wonderful children.
• If he wouldn’t have gotten sick, he doesn’t think that he would have the same views on family and life as he does now.
• He says there is nothing more important than what his children have to tell or show him.  He will always get up to follow them.
• He had to give up film and TV acting, but Parkinson’s took him in a new direction.  He became an activist, an author, and he gets to travel.

I think that you and I could learn many lessons from Michael J Fox.  He lives his life “in the moment”, appreciating each moment he shares with his family.  He is filled with gratitude and love. 

You never know where life will lead you.  It is only your job to go with the flow.  You need to pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and continue on this journey called life.

Eleven years ago, he was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis.  The doctors told him that he was going to die.  Today, watching him, you would never even know that he had an illness.

He told Mike and Juliet, the hosts, that this illness caused him to re-evaluate his entire life.  When he was first diagnosed, he wasn’t happy.  His life wasn’t in balance. 

Today, he credits his health with healing his body, mind, and spirit.  He takes the time to do things he loves.  He spends more time with his family.  He makes a conscious effort to live a more balanced life.

What’s Your Wake-Up Call?

Seeing him on the show this morning really got me thinking.  How many times do you refuse to change part of your life until something bad happens?  It could be an illness, divorce, or getting hurt on the job.  Each one of these things forces you to change direction in your life. 

The tricky part is recognizing that it is God’s intervention.  So many times you refuse to make the change on your own.  If that is the case, God steps in and throws you a complete curve ball.  This curve ball forces the change on you.

How Do You Handle the Change?

When a serious life-altering event is taking place in your life, how do you deal with it?  It’s very easy to fall straight into the victim role.  It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself and think that the world is ending. 

The truth is, that the world is ending as you know it.  BUT it’s not ending completely.  Now is the time to take inventory of your life.  What is working and what isn’t? 

It’s time to do a lot of internal housekeeping.  What needs to change?  What can you let go of that is no longer serving you?  What emotions, pain, anger, or guilt do you need to release?

It’s time to start over with a clean slate.  It’s time to get back to who you are and who you want to be.  It’s time to thank God for this blessing.  It’s time to find the silver-lining. 

What is it that you pray for that hasn’t shown up yet?

Are you looking to the people in your life to provide you with what you want?

I’ve been reading the book, “Working With the Law”, by Raymond Holliwell.  This book very plainly explains that God is the source of everything that you could ever want in your life. 

You spend your days wishing and hoping for a change and it never seems to come.  You want more money, a loving relationship, a healthy body.   You ask your friends, neighbors, and families for help. 

You are asking the wrong person.  You need to first ask God for help.  God is the source of abundance in every area of your life.  The universe will shift to bring you anything that you ask for.  You need to understand AND believe that all goodness comes from one source.  It just comes through other people.

When you ask God for help, you need to let go of the outcome.  You won’t know where the answer will come from, but it will come.  God has the power to send you something even better than you even asked for.

Stop trying to control everything.  Believe in magic.  Let go and let God.

My conscious mind and my background in relationship coaching tell me that there is no way that you can find your life partner on that show.  Yet, there is a piece of me that is truly rooting for the couples when they leave the show.  I even do believe that you never know where you will meet your soul mate.  Only God knows that answer.  You only need to accept the opportunities that come your way.

This season has been even more dramatic than the last ones.  The bachelor, Jason Mesnick chose Melissa and proposed.  After the show ended, he changed his mind and wanted to try again with the woman he let go, Molly.

If you are able to watch the show objectively, it is quite the lesson in human behavior.  This is one of the other reasons I love to watch this show.  There are so many hidden pearls of wisdom in this season.  I’d like to share some of the life lessons I found this season.

Lessons Learned From “The Bachelor”

1. Say “yes” to opportunities.  When there is something that you long for or that you desire, the universe will present you with opportunities.  It is your job to take a risk and follow the opportunities.  It will always lead you to what you want or something better.  Jason took the first chance by being on “The Bachelorette”.  He didn’t find his true love, but then he had another chance.
2. Don’t worry what anyone else thinks about you.  You need to do what is right for you, regardless of what other people think.  So many people get caught up worrying what their family, friends, and society will think of them.  Let it go.  Jason knew that he made a mistake with Melissa and that he would get a lot of grief from his decision, but he knew he had to follow his heart.  That’s when he went back to Molly.
3. Everything happens for a reason.  In the midst of emotional heartache and pain, it is hard to see the bigger picture.  BUT when you look back at your life, you can see the thread tying all of the events together.  you can see how one thing lead you to the next part of your life.  I thought that the bachelorette Melissa handled herself very well.  I was proud of her when she said that she will be able to look back at this situation and see why it happened.  It is all leading her to someone else.

Overall, I thought that the season was intriguing and I was actually very suprised that he went back to Molly.  I thought that Melissa was the better fit for him, but what do I know.  Only you know what is right for you. 

I wish Jason and Molly much love and happiness and I look forward to the new season beginning in May!

When you think of that event now, how does it make you feel?

Do you still have emotion that comes up?

Anger is one of those emotions that can literally eat away at you.   Anger can take over and consume your entire life.  I’m sure you can think of someone that is just angry all the time.  Nothing ever goes right for him and he is just never in a good mood.

When I meet someone like this, I often wonder to myself, what happened to make him that way?  And I wish he would realize that it is much more painful to continuously live that way than it is to let it go.

Many times, your experiences become your story.  It’s how you identify yourself.  It becomes who you are.  And, you can’t let go of the anger because you don’t know who you are without it.

You Need to Stop Holding Grudges

You see, there is a problem with holding on to that anger.  There is a problem with holding that grudge.  If you stay angry, who are you hurting?  Does that person you are angry at even know that you are angry?  You are really only hurting yourself.

• When you hold a grudge, the other person can’t seek forgiveness from you.  Most times when you hold a grudge, you cut off all communication from the person that hurt you.  You completely cut them out of your life.  When you do this, there is absolutely no chance to heal the hurt.  There is no chance to ever reconcile.  Maybe the other person wants to apologize.  Maybe you should let him.
• You become the victim.  When you hold a grudge, you place the blame on someone else.  You willingly put yourself in the victim role.  This is a very powerless place to be.  When you are the victim, you refuse to see that you may have contributed to the problem.  Being able to see that it takes two people to make or break any type of relationship, is where the power is.  This is when you can grow.
• Joy leaves your life.  When you refuse to release anger, it consumes you.  Being angry and unhappy takes a lot of energy.  And when you are angry all the time, you attract the same kind of people, angry people.  The happy people don’t want to be around you.  Like attracts like.

I know that this can be easier said than done.  And, there is a grieving process when certain things happen.  You can give yourself a few days to stay in that place of anger or sadness, but only a few days.  

Take each circumstance in your life as a lesson learned.  Each person you come in contact with is a mirror into what needs to be healed in you.  Each experience, both painful and happy, was divinely brought to you for growth.  Even if it is painful, it is for your higher good.   

Know that you are a powerful person that is in complete control of what your life is like.  You can CHOOSE to be happy instead of angry at any moment.  You can CHOOSE to take back your power.  You can CHOOSE to forgive.

I found it to be the most interesting topic.  She was discussing how she healed her own vision.  I found this to be extremely interesting because I know someone else who had this same incredible miracle.

Causes of Poor Eyesight

Eleanor explained some of the main emotional reasons that you may have poor vision.

1. Tension in your eyes.  You carry a lot of tension and stress in your eyes.  It is a place in which emotional stuff piles up.  You need to tune into your eyes and relax.
2. Eyes represent self-image.  Your eyes represent how you see yourself.  They are your identity.  You carry shame and self esteem in your eyes.
3. Collective Consciousness.  You formed your beliefs about your eyes when you were a child.  You probably didn’t even choose your own beliefs.  Do you believe that you need reading glasses as you age, that elderly people have cataracts, or that all the people in your family need glasses?  Can you see what I mean?

As you can see, there is an incredible connection between what is going on inside of you and what manifests physically in your body.  It is important to let go of the beliefs that are no longer serving you.  As you begin to release these old beliefs, you will see more than your eyesight improve. 

This morning I read this quote on Twitter.  It totally struck me because it is the truth I see in me.  Over the years, when I have felt as though I haven’t had enough money, it wasn’t because I didn’t know what to do or how to create it.  It was because I let my fears and insecurities stand in my way. 

Each and every one of us has a gift to share with the world.  It is our God-given gift, our life purpose.  It is the one thing that makes you unique.  It is the REAL you.

I think that this piece of you that makes you special can also make you feel vulnerable.  Many times we wear masks through-out the day.  It is the mask of who you think you need to be for your friends, boss, family, and even society. 

The mask is worn to protect us from our fears and our insecurities.  For me it was the fear of humiliation and embarrassment.  I was afraid that no one would like the real me.  I was afraid that I would be laughed at and that no one would want to hear what I had to say.

I want you to take the mask off.  I want you to explore who you really are.  I want you to get in touch with what your unique message is. 

Today I want you to be courageous.  I want you to be brave.  I want you to show up in the world as the real you.  The world is waiting for your message.