What are you missing in your life?

What is it that you pray for that hasn’t shown up yet?

Are you looking to the people in your life to provide you with what you want?

I’ve been reading the book, “Working With the Law”, by Raymond Holliwell.  This book very plainly explains that God is the source of everything that you could ever want in your life. 

You spend your days wishing and hoping for a change and it never seems to come.  You want more money, a loving relationship, a healthy body.   You ask your friends, neighbors, and families for help. 

You are asking the wrong person.  You need to first ask God for help.  God is the source of abundance in every area of your life.  The universe will shift to bring you anything that you ask for.  You need to understand AND believe that all goodness comes from one source.  It just comes through other people.

When you ask God for help, you need to let go of the outcome.  You won’t know where the answer will come from, but it will come.  God has the power to send you something even better than you even asked for.

Stop trying to control everything.  Believe in magic.  Let go and let God.

Over the last few weeks, I have found myself sucked in yet again to the reality show, “The Bachelor”.  I think that part of the allure is that I am a self-proclaimed hopeless romantic. 

My conscious mind and my background in relationship coaching tell me that there is no way that you can find your life partner on that show.  Yet, there is a piece of me that is truly rooting for the couples when they leave the show.  I even do believe that you never know where you will meet your soul mate.  Only God knows that answer.  You only need to accept the opportunities that come your way.

This season has been even more dramatic than the last ones.  The bachelor, Jason Mesnick chose Melissa and proposed.  After the show ended, he changed his mind and wanted to try again with the woman he let go, Molly.

If you are able to watch the show objectively, it is quite the lesson in human behavior.  This is one of the other reasons I love to watch this show.  There are so many hidden pearls of wisdom in this season.  I’d like to share some of the life lessons I found this season.

Lessons Learned From “The Bachelor”

1. Say “yes” to opportunities.  When there is something that you long for or that you desire, the universe will present you with opportunities.  It is your job to take a risk and follow the opportunities.  It will always lead you to what you want or something better.  Jason took the first chance by being on “The Bachelorette”.  He didn’t find his true love, but then he had another chance.
2. Don’t worry what anyone else thinks about you.  You need to do what is right for you, regardless of what other people think.  So many people get caught up worrying what their family, friends, and society will think of them.  Let it go.  Jason knew that he made a mistake with Melissa and that he would get a lot of grief from his decision, but he knew he had to follow his heart.  That’s when he went back to Molly.
3. Everything happens for a reason.  In the midst of emotional heartache and pain, it is hard to see the bigger picture.  BUT when you look back at your life, you can see the thread tying all of the events together.  you can see how one thing lead you to the next part of your life.  I thought that the bachelorette Melissa handled herself very well.  I was proud of her when she said that she will be able to look back at this situation and see why it happened.  It is all leading her to someone else.

Overall, I thought that the season was intriguing and I was actually very suprised that he went back to Molly.  I thought that Melissa was the better fit for him, but what do I know.  Only you know what is right for you. 

I wish Jason and Molly much love and happiness and I look forward to the new season beginning in May!

When is the last time you were so angry or hurt?

When you think of that event now, how does it make you feel?

Do you still have emotion that comes up?

Anger is one of those emotions that can literally eat away at you.   Anger can take over and consume your entire life.  I’m sure you can think of someone that is just angry all the time.  Nothing ever goes right for him and he is just never in a good mood.

When I meet someone like this, I often wonder to myself, what happened to make him that way?  And I wish he would realize that it is much more painful to continuously live that way than it is to let it go.

Many times, your experiences become your story.  It’s how you identify yourself.  It becomes who you are.  And, you can’t let go of the anger because you don’t know who you are without it.

You Need to Stop Holding Grudges

You see, there is a problem with holding on to that anger.  There is a problem with holding that grudge.  If you stay angry, who are you hurting?  Does that person you are angry at even know that you are angry?  You are really only hurting yourself.

• When you hold a grudge, the other person can’t seek forgiveness from you.  Most times when you hold a grudge, you cut off all communication from the person that hurt you.  You completely cut them out of your life.  When you do this, there is absolutely no chance to heal the hurt.  There is no chance to ever reconcile.  Maybe the other person wants to apologize.  Maybe you should let him.
• You become the victim.  When you hold a grudge, you place the blame on someone else.  You willingly put yourself in the victim role.  This is a very powerless place to be.  When you are the victim, you refuse to see that you may have contributed to the problem.  Being able to see that it takes two people to make or break any type of relationship, is where the power is.  This is when you can grow.
• Joy leaves your life.  When you refuse to release anger, it consumes you.  Being angry and unhappy takes a lot of energy.  And when you are angry all the time, you attract the same kind of people, angry people.  The happy people don’t want to be around you.  Like attracts like.

I know that this can be easier said than done.  And, there is a grieving process when certain things happen.  You can give yourself a few days to stay in that place of anger or sadness, but only a few days.  

Take each circumstance in your life as a lesson learned.  Each person you come in contact with is a mirror into what needs to be healed in you.  Each experience, both painful and happy, was divinely brought to you for growth.  Even if it is painful, it is for your higher good.   

Know that you are a powerful person that is in complete control of what your life is like.  You can CHOOSE to be happy instead of angry at any moment.  You can CHOOSE to take back your power.  You can CHOOSE to forgive.

I just finished listening to a show on BlogTalk Radio.  The guest on the show was Eleanore Duyndam, EFT Practitioner and healer.

I found it to be the most interesting topic.  She was discussing how she healed her own vision.  I found this to be extremely interesting because I know someone else who had this same incredible miracle.

Causes of Poor Eyesight

Eleanor explained some of the main emotional reasons that you may have poor vision.

1. Tension in your eyes.  You carry a lot of tension and stress in your eyes.  It is a place in which emotional stuff piles up.  You need to tune into your eyes and relax.
2. Eyes represent self-image.  Your eyes represent how you see yourself.  They are your identity.  You carry shame and self esteem in your eyes.
3. Collective Consciousness.  You formed your beliefs about your eyes when you were a child.  You probably didn’t even choose your own beliefs.  Do you believe that you need reading glasses as you age, that elderly people have cataracts, or that all the people in your family need glasses?  Can you see what I mean?

As you can see, there is an incredible connection between what is going on inside of you and what manifests physically in your body.  It is important to let go of the beliefs that are no longer serving you.  As you begin to release these old beliefs, you will see more than your eyesight improve. 

“…not enough money is not the issue.  Having the courage to give your highest gift is the issue.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch

This morning I read this quote on Twitter.  It totally struck me because it is the truth I see in me.  Over the years, when I have felt as though I haven’t had enough money, it wasn’t because I didn’t know what to do or how to create it.  It was because I let my fears and insecurities stand in my way. 

Each and every one of us has a gift to share with the world.  It is our God-given gift, our life purpose.  It is the one thing that makes you unique.  It is the REAL you.

I think that this piece of you that makes you special can also make you feel vulnerable.  Many times we wear masks through-out the day.  It is the mask of who you think you need to be for your friends, boss, family, and even society. 

The mask is worn to protect us from our fears and our insecurities.  For me it was the fear of humiliation and embarrassment.  I was afraid that no one would like the real me.  I was afraid that I would be laughed at and that no one would want to hear what I had to say.

I want you to take the mask off.  I want you to explore who you really are.  I want you to get in touch with what your unique message is. 

Today I want you to be courageous.  I want you to be brave.  I want you to show up in the world as the real you.  The world is waiting for your message.