What exactly is a limiting belief?

A limiting belief is a negative thought or feeling about you and what you are capable of accomplishing.

Everyone has an endless tape of “self-talk” running through their head.  I’m sure you know what I mean.  This tape is the narrator of your life.  It is constantly commenting on everything that you and everyone else are doing.

The problem is that your internal commentator isn’t really all that nice.  He seems to find fault often and is constantly judging you.

How often do you think or feel the following?

• Boy, that was stupid.
• I didn’t do that good enough.
• No wonder nobody loves me.
• I’ll never get that job.
• I’m not smart enough.
• I look fat or ugly.
• Ugh, what was I thinking?

All of these thoughts and feelings are ruining your life.  The beliefs you carry determine how successful you will be in love, money, and in life.

Many limiting beliefs keep you “stuck”.  You are scared to try, to put yourself out in the world, or to meet new people.  Limiting beliefs keep you in terrible relationships and jobs that you don’t like.

The important thing to remember is that these thoughts and feelings can be changed.  Once you know that you have them, you can choose to believe something else.  You can choose to believe the truth.

The truth is that you are smart, beautiful, and perfect just the way you are.  I am very confident in telling you this.  Do you want to know why?

I know it’s true because God doesn’t make mistakes.

This morning country singer Clay Walker was on The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet.  He was talking about the day he received the biggest wake-up call of his life.

Eleven years ago, he was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis.  The doctors told him that he was going to die.  Today, watching him, you would never even know that he had an illness.

He told Mike and Juliet, the hosts, that this illness caused him to re-evaluate his entire life.  When he was first diagnosed, he wasn’t happy.  His life wasn’t in balance. 

Today, he credits his health with healing his body, mind, and spirit.  He takes the time to do things he loves.  He spends more time with his family.  He makes a conscious effort to live a more balanced life.

What’s Your Wake-Up Call?

Seeing him on the show this morning really got me thinking.  How many times do you refuse to change part of your life until something bad happens?  It could be an illness, divorce, or getting hurt on the job.  Each one of these things forces you to change direction in your life. 

The tricky part is recognizing that it is God’s intervention.  So many times you refuse to make the change on your own.  If that is the case, God steps in and throws you a complete curve ball.  This curve ball forces the change on you.

How Do You Handle the Change?

When a serious life-altering event is taking place in your life, how do you deal with it?  It’s very easy to fall straight into the victim role.  It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself and think that the world is ending. 

The truth is, that the world is ending as you know it.  BUT it’s not ending completely.  Now is the time to take inventory of your life.  What is working and what isn’t? 

It’s time to do a lot of internal housekeeping.  What needs to change?  What can you let go of that is no longer serving you?  What emotions, pain, anger, or guilt do you need to release?

It’s time to start over with a clean slate.  It’s time to get back to who you are and who you want to be.  It’s time to thank God for this blessing.  It’s time to find the silver-lining. 

 

What are you missing in your life?

What is it that you pray for that hasn’t shown up yet?

Are you looking to the people in your life to provide you with what you want?

I’ve been reading the book, “Working With the Law”, by Raymond Holliwell.  This book very plainly explains that God is the source of everything that you could ever want in your life. 

You spend your days wishing and hoping for a change and it never seems to come.  You want more money, a loving relationship, a healthy body.   You ask your friends, neighbors, and families for help. 

You are asking the wrong person.  You need to first ask God for help.  God is the source of abundance in every area of your life.  The universe will shift to bring you anything that you ask for.  You need to understand AND believe that all goodness comes from one source.  It just comes through other people.

When you ask God for help, you need to let go of the outcome.  You won’t know where the answer will come from, but it will come.  God has the power to send you something even better than you even asked for.

Stop trying to control everything.  Believe in magic.  Let go and let God.

With Valentine’s Day almost here, I know that a lot of you have love on your mind.  This can be a wonderful time to celebrate a love that you share with someone special.  But it can also be a time that causes a lot of pain. 

Recently, a good friend of mine called because he is experiencing heartache right now.  He has just ended a very significant relationship and is feeling a lot of pain.  As he explains, the problem was that he is unable to open his heart for fear of being hurt yet again. 

His question to me was simply, “Terri, what should I do?”  I know that there isn’t just one simple answer here.  It is a lot more in-depth than just saying, “Give her space”.  So, I will do my best to break down some steps in this process for you.

Loving Again

• Please check your baggage at the door.  One of the main causes of conflict and pain in relationships is emotional baggage.  You have all had experiences in the past that have caused you pain.  Maybe you were cheated on, or abused.  Maybe you didn’t see a healthy relationship between your parents.  These are all experiences that you have internalized and probably don’t even realize it.  The problem with this is that you can so easily carry them over into a new relationship.  It’s important to let it all go and heal from the past pain before embarking on a new journey of love.
• “Into Me I See”  In order to have a truly intimate, close connection with another person, you need to let your guard down.  You need to love without having any walls up.  You need to share that piece of you that you don’t show anyone else.  This is true intimacy.  It is vulnerable and can be scary.  BUT, it is necessary. 
• Relationship Skills  Unfortunately, you weren’t born knowing how to have a successful marriage.  They don’t teach it in school either.  But there are ways to learn how to have a healthy, happy relationship.  You need to learn how to communicate, resolve conflict, and keep the fires burning forever.  Don’t just jump in without knowing what to do.  Get the help that you need.

There is no guarantee when you enter a relationship.  Only God knows if it is going to work out.  But, it can be one of the most rewarding experiences of your life.  So, go ahead, take that leap of faith. 

I have been reading a wonderful book, “God Works Through You”, by Robert A. Russell.  It is one of the books I am studying in David Neagle’s Mentor Study Program.  The other night part of the book jumped out at me because it is exactly what I teach to my clients and students.  I’d like to share a bit with you.

“What, then, can you do to control your emotions?  The first thing to do is to clean up your mind.  You can get rid of all the mental clutter of anger, fear, jealousy, envy, hatred and resentment you have accumulated.”

So many of us go through our lives collecting emotional pain.  You may not even be aware of how it is sabotaging and controlling your life.  This emotional pain keeps you stuck in a prison unable to live and create the life that you long to have. 

• If you carry resentment, can you really truly love?
• If you are jealous, can you ever be happy with your own life?
• If you feel anger, can you ever be at peace?
• If you feel wounded, can you ever see when someone really loves you?

“…..forget those things which are behind….Remembered hurts, slights and insults are a constant drain on your emotional energy.”

Let the past go.  It can’t hurt you anymore unless you allow it to.  You were given free will.  You can choose whether or not to move on. 

Sometimes it seems hard to let things go.  You don’t know HOW to do that.  But, you know what?  There is someone else that does know how.  Search out that person.  The answers are there. 

Your beautiful, happy life is waiting for you.